We all live in different cultures. With differences in culture, there are often differences in identities and needs. Just as people's cultures can differ around ethnicity, race, national background, socioeconomics, or by geography, so can people and cultures differ by sexual orientation and identity. People say LGBTQ+ like it’s an umbrella term and that everyone who stands under it is the same. But we’ve got different cultures – including Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals, Transgender Individuals, and Queer people.
As therapists, we aren’t here to say that gay, bisexual, or queer men have different emotions and thoughts than everyone else. We’re also not suggesting that one community’s needs are more significant than another’s.
But as gay, bi, or queer men, our cultures can feel different, and sometimes our needs are, too. Just as some therapy practices only work with women or transgender individuals, often, gay, bi, and queer (GBQ) men want to connect and work with someone who can understand their community.
In our work, we have discussed coming out, dating, and sex – about making friends or feeling betrayed by them. We’ve worked with complex parts of people’s past that still hurt, like bullying or abuse. There are often issues with religion or family, or with HIV/AIDS.
Our sessions have focused on navigating identity and sex on one's own, or in a relationship. Some people want to explore kink, some are figuring out how to date and meet others. In a relationship, one person often wants to be sexual more than the other(s), or one partner would like to “open up” the relationship.
We have worked with people from different walks of life: our community’s professionals, artists, doctors, students. We’ve worked with older men, daddies, sages, bears, twinks, and the people in between… with people of different abilities. We have worked with people of conservative religious backgrounds (including ex-priests/pastors), and people who do not embrace any particular religion. The unifying factor is that we will respect you and walk with you, no matter your background.
Gay, bi, and queer men’s emotions aren’t different from their straight counterparts, but the lives we live, and cultures we inhabit, very often are. If your life and your experience feel different enough that you want someone who “gets” your culture and what it’s like to live in it, we’re here.
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